CHICAGO PAIR WED 50 YEARS

Chicago Daily News 4 May 1920

Trial Marriage Plan is Scored by Mrs. Charles Cleaver,

DENY WEDLOCK IRKSOME

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Has the old fashioned "and they lived happily ever afterward" kind of

romance takes the count in an age of xxxx?

Fannie Hurst, author of conventional love stories in which conventional

young men and women sigh and court and marry and live happily ever afterward,

has issued a statement pointing our that life is not at all as she has

industrlously written it to be, that marriage is not a romance when conducted

under conventional auspices, but a cordial endurance tenst overgrown with the

xxxx of familiarity and contempt.

"I have been secretly married for xxx years but not living with my

husband," said the authoress. "We decided that even breakfasts a week

opposite each other might prove irksome and we have therefore arranged about

two."

"We've been xxxxxx xxxxx opposite each other for fifty years on the average

of seven times a week," said Mrs. Charles Cleaver, "and it has never been

irksome."

Celebrate Fiftieth Anniversary

"Not for a moment," said Mr. Cleaver. The Cleavers yesterday celebrated

their golden anniversary in their home at 5427 University avenue.

The Cleavers were asked for their opinion concerning Fannie Hurst's

matrimonial ideas because they were representative of thousands of couples

happily wedded through lon periods of years.

"I noticed the story this morning." said Mr. Cleaver. "It appealed to me

as somewhat funny. I suppose it's a part of the new fanfled ideas that are

taking hold in the world. Things are only what you make them and if people

want to make marriage a sort of formal undomesticated business it's their own

lookout.

"As for us, and I suppose thousands of other couples, marriage has meant a

pleasant, worthwhile partnership in which we have shared our days for fifty

years, and I am conscious of neither familiarity or contempt,"

Journeying to the divorce court in the county building the reporter

interrogated several couples sitting on the benches waiting for the nails of

justice to grind their chains apart. There was one young married woman, who

had read Miss Hurst's description of her trial marriage, her radical routine,

the manner in which she and her husband led their own individual lives and called

each other up for dinner appointments as if they were friends.

Others Live Like Vegetables.

"Yes, that's it," said the young women. She gave her name as Mrs. Eva

Welch. "But she never wrote about such things for the ma........ I've read

her writings and they're all sweet and nice and goody.. Of course, she's

right. There are some people who maybe can live together as man and wife

without losing interest in each other when they have something to xxxx about.

I thought different before I got married. I'd always said the kind of

stories that Fanny Hurst writes is the magazines and I thought love was a

wonderful thing that once felt would last forever and ever. Well, I fell in

love and got married and here I am waiting for my case to come up.

The announcement made by Miss Hurst that she had been married for ten years

came as a surprise to her many friends in Chicago, who, thought intimately

acquainted with her during the five years know her only as Fannie Hurst and

never suspected her marriage.

Intends to Remain "Miss Hurst."

Although the secret is out. Miss Hurst says she expects to be known to her

friends and the world as "Miss" Hurst until she dies. She and her husband

Jacques S. Danielson, pianist and composer, were married in Lakewood, N. J.

by a magistrate in May, 1915, and have ever since maintained separate

apartments and and entirely independent existence. Thus the fact was known

to early six friends of both.

"We decided that seven breakfasts a week opposite one another might prove

irksome," she said. "Our average was xxx. We decided that invariably being

invited to the same social functions might gradually resolve itself in the

usual marriage wrangled of dragging on another to places we did not want to

go to. We have maintained our separate groups of friends.

Child Would Take Paternal Name.

"We also decided that in the event of offspring the child should take the

paternal name until reaching the age of discretion, when the decision would

be with him or her.

"My husband telephones me for a dinner engagement exactly the same as xxxxx

of my other friends. I have the same regard for his plans."

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Chicago Tribune

1870 ------- SO LONG, SO SHORT A TIME ----- 1920

Bride and Bridegroom as They Looked Fifty Years Ago and as They Look Today,

Celebrating Their Golden Anniversary.

THEIR MARRIAGE COACH A BUGGY 50 YEARS AGO TODAY

Wedding Bells Again for Chicago Pair.

Mr. and Mrs. Charles S. Cleaver, as they were and as they are. Below the

The Tribune account of their wedding, published May 3, 1870.

Fashionable Wedding

A fashionable wedding took place last evening at the Ninth Presbyterian

Church, Miss Ida A. Eddy and Charles S. Cleaver being the happy principals.

Extensive preparations were made for making the occasion attractive to all,

and, at the hour set for the commencement of the ceremonies, an immense

concourse of ladies and gentlemen has assembled. The officiating clergyman,

who married the couple, was Rev. Alfred Eddy, father of the bride. The

bridal procession marched into the church headed by four bridesmaids and

groomsmen. The bridesmaids were Misses Kitty Eddy, Cora Eddy, Myra Cleaver,

and Annie Fell; the groomsmen were C. E. Dickenson, W. A. Bond, F. W.

Cleaver, and H. B. Goodwin: ushers, J. S. Scoville, James Springer, W. R.

Root, and W. H. Cleaver.

The bridal presents were both numerous and magnificent, embracing the set

of pearl jewelry from the groom, a gold watch and chain from the groom's

father, besides a large number of other presents from friends of both parties.

The pair left Chicago last night for Europe, via the Michigan Central Road.

(The following appears to be part of an incomplete article)

Somewhere in the Colossus of Brick and steel that is Chicago there dwells a

soul of the city, the essence of its being --- at once the reason and the

inspiration of its progress. What is the soul? Simply the aggregate of

qualities possessed by the ordinary, od fearing citizen, content to pursue

the even tenor of his normal way. As news is recon coned he is obscure, for

he seldom lifts up his voice in the halls of politics, and his constructive

life is Sunday; helped the sick and needy; participated in all neighborhood

activities that could advance the weal of the community; and Mr. Cleaver has

always studied his ballot religiously "to vote for the candidate I consider

the best man for the job."

They had taken a honeymoon trip to Europe. Mr Cleaver's father was...

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Contributor: Paula Tomaszewski [[email protected]] August 2004
 

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